There is no question that human relationships can be very complex. When two people decide to start a relationship, they usually expect this to be long-term, but the most common thing is for relationships to end as soon as there is any kind of serious disagreement or clash of ideologies. In this article, I am going to share the key elements that should allow you to have a happy and successful long –term relationship.

Learn to put yourself in the shoes of your significant other and you will be able to understand them better.


This is a very broad topic, but let’s just cut to the chase. The key to communicating properly is to ALWAYS let your partner know when you are feeling uncomfortable about something that affects your relationship. The biggest mistake that people make is to avoid communicating how they feel. Ultimately, this is going to factor in your decision to put distance between you and your partner.

You need to learn to communicate when it feels uncomfortable to say something. Understanding that keeping quiet and not letting your partner know how you feel does more harm than good, is the key to maintaining a healthy dialog.

Practice Empathy

Empathy is the ability to tune ourselves into other people’s sensations and emotions, and gain a sense of what is like to be them in that moment. It is vital to developing trust and rapport in relationships. Empathy allows us reach out to others and cultivate mutual understanding.¹

We tend to forget to be empathetic of our partner’s needs. There are things that you might consider trivial and meaningless, but your partner could see them as very important. Learn to put yourself in the shoes of your significant other and you will be able to understand them better.

Learn To Let Things Go!

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Conflict, in any relationship is inevitable. There are all kinds of small disagreements and problems that couples encounter. But, if one or both of you are unable to let the small things go, then there’s a high probability that you’re not going to be able to handle serious problems. Always remember to pick your battles and be mindful of your need to learn to let go of the small things.

Never Take Things for Granted

We oftentimes forget or overlook the value of our partner’s actions and the importance of our relationship with that person. It’s always good to remind your partner of how much they mean to you and how much you appreciate what you have with them. The best way to do this is to make a habit of focusing and reflecting on positive aspects of your relationship.

Find Balance

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The importance of work-life balance can never be overstated. You can’t be completely immersed in your job and your career and expect to have a good relationship. Alternately, you can expect to be fully engaged in your relationship and have a rewarding career. Aligning these priorities is not an easy task. Whether at work or home, remind yourself to focus on the things that are most important. Your partner –and body- will thank you for it.

Final Thoughts

Having a good relationship requires a certain amount of work from both parties. You can’t expect the relationship to work if you are the only one keeping these things in mind, so you should both encourage each other to be aware of these important tips that will allow your relationship to grow stronger, day by day.


What are your thoughts on what leads to a successful, long term-relationship? Did I miss anything? Sound off below!







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